Understanding a Situation-ship

If you are not familiar with the term 'Situation-ship' it's basically when you are in a situation with a boy/ girl you like. Majorly a step up from 'friends with benefits'.

You might go out together, meet their friends and even know their siblings but you aren't in a relationship. Its just a situation; y'all sleep together but there's no commitment, basically having relationship problems, catching relationship feelings while still single. 

The starter pack usually involves words like; 

I don't want you talking to anyone
Titles are overrated
A night in is better than going out
We are not official and I expect you to be loyal 


So there are 3 things you need to understand about a situation-ship

This person you're in a with situation-ship is single - a single baby girl or a single fuck boy

These things are mutual, you're both single, if someone is taken then that's just side nigga / side chick duties. In a situation-ship you're both single and not ready for a relationship but ready for relationship benefits.

You will have relationships headache while single
Making plans, dick appointments, you'll get complaints about boys/girls night out. You're getting all the negative benefits of dating as well.
You are not the only one

Because anyone comfortable with such arrangement, will be in more than one situation-ship. One person will try to be faithful and the other party will keep multiple partners. Monogamy isn't natural to those who commit to such arrangements. And if it wasn't your idea, you'll be the biggest loser.


This is why you don't want a situation-ship !!!! Some boy/girl wants to eat your meals, sleep with you,spend your money and tells you titles don't matter!!! Don't let anyone defraud you financially and sexually, you'll now want to say 'I love you' and you can't because it's not part of the arrangement. 

There's no future with that person, even a committed relationship or even marriage doesn't guaranty that. 

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