For Live-in Lovers & Cohabiters

So I have been trying to write an article on live-in lovers for a while now... I got someone very judgemental to do that for me.

If you are a live-in lover don't read this.




Two unmarried adults who are lovers, and also Living together.


The type of live-in lover situation that I'm referring to is a barter relationship where the man provides accommodation and maybe raw materials for food production and the woman provides orgasms and technical know-how for the conversion of raw materials into tasty and edible food.

I am aware that feminists might demand my head for this post, but in my experience, women are in most cases guilty of what I would describe as this act of  "benevolence".
I am of the opinion that marriage is a cage and most married people consider it less stressful to remain in that cage as opposed to setting themselves free by divorce or something worse. People also stay married and live together because of what has been invested in the marriage and the products of such investments. What I mean to say is that children are a very influencing factor in keeping two adults under the same roof over an extended period of time.
As a fully or semi-dependent live-in lover, you have no bargaining chip for a lasting relationship or lasting accommodation as the case may be and this is where the concept of ‘see finish’ comes into play.


He or she sees you every day and naturally the excitement and cravings attached to the relationship depletes. It is usually golden during the first few weeks; plenty gist and plenty sex. Then what? Your needs and cravings are no longer aligned, demands begin to look unnecessary and worst of all their presence begins to irritate you.
This is when someone should go on a vacation without the other or maybe go back to their original homes, but guess what? You are a live-in lover and you have nowhere to go. You are probably enemies with everyone that loves you because maybe they tried to stop you from moving in with the love of your life. So somehow you decide to stay and manage or try to fix things. It never works.


Love turns to pressure, compatibility becomes tolerance and cohabitation becomes a burden.
It doesn’t matter whose idea it was in the first place. IT IS A BAD IDEA. DO NOT FALL FOR IT.
Oh and I forgot to mention that it gets to the point where your significant other takes his side chicks to his friend’s houses or hotels to shag. And that turns you into the grumpy and nagging "wife" who will be at home thinking about man and food.


Still, you can’t leave because you are scared to give up on the relationship and in most cases, you have nowhere else to go.

DON’T BE THIS PERSON.

This was written by Someone's Inferno.

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